Let me set the scene for you- walking down the street to get to your destination you hear a car slow down beside you. As your heart starts to race you brace for it.. “You’re so sexy” It’s okay though, just keep your head down and continue onward. While walking you see a group of boys coming up on your left so you pull out your phone in hopes that you will look busy just so they’ll leave you alone except then you hear a “Can I get your number?” You’re told by society if you don’t want this attention to just ignore it, so you do. A little louder, “Oh, you think you can just ignore me? I get it.” As your adrenaline starts pumping you pick up the pace, keep your phone out, and hope they’re not mad enough by your subtle rejection to follow you. In order to calm yourself a bit you scroll through Instagram. Once you open the app you see a little red circle with a one on the top left of your screen, a message! You click on the message from a stranger and see, “I was 25 mins late to work because of you haha.” That’s when it sinks in, it won’t stop.
I wish I could tell you that I’ve only been harassed while walking at night or in the bad side of town but the thing is- it’s constant. It’s during my trips to my favorite little coffee shop in the morning, it’s on my way home from work, it’s walking to my car from the grocery store, and now it’s even online.
When you’re catcalled you can’t tell the person to stop being a creep. You can’t even give them a dirty look in fear that things will escalate. We, as women, are taught to put our head down and act as though that didn’t just happen. If we acknowledge them in any way, shape, or form we’re welcoming that kind-of attention.
It’s sickening to me that men feel so entitled to just say whatever they’re thinking and pass it off as a compliment. They can tell me I have a nice ass, “what they would do to me, If I was theirs,” or if they think I’m sexy just because I am living my life.
Maybe you’re reading this, maybe you’re thinking “poor pretty girl, it must be hard to be found attractive. Accept the compliment.” A compliment should be individualized, but catcallers usually use the same line for every girl. I can’t show you the things I have been told while walking down the street but I can share with you the messages I get from complete strangers online. Let me know in the comments if these would be considered compliments to you?